Magenta Stock List

Magenta has recently updated the stock list available for purchase in our shop.

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CONDOMS & BARRIERS

Ansell Condoms – 144 in Gross  $   25.00  $       –  $   25.00
Ansell Condoms – 12 singles  $     2.40  $       –  $     2.40
Four Seasons Condoms -144 in Gross  $   30.00  $       –  $   30.00
Four Seasons Condoms -12 Singles  $     3.00  $       –  $     3.00
Glyde Condoms – 100 in Gross  $   20.00  $       –  $   20.00
Glyde Condoms – 10 Singles  $     2.00  $       –  $     2.00
Femidom (female condom) – Single  $     3.50  $       –  $     3.50
Finger Cots – 100 in Gross  $   20.00  $       –  $   20.00
Finger Cots – Pack of 10  $     2.00  $       –  $     2.00
Dental Dams – 100 in Box  $   55.00  $       –  $   55.00
Dental Dams – Single  $     0.55  $       –  $     0.55
Dam Straps – Single  $   22.72  $   2.28  $   25.00
Gloves – 100 in box  $   10.91  $   1.09  $   12.00
Gloves – 10 Singles  $     1.82  $   0.18  $     2.00
Pregnancy test Kit – each  $     5.00  $       –  $     5.00

LUBES

Wet Stuff  Gold – 60 g  $     4.00  $       –  $     4.00
Wet Stuff   Gold – 270g  $   11.00  $       –  $   11.00
Wet Stuff  Gold – 100g  $     5.00  $       –  $     5.00
Wet Stuff Gold 550g  $   16.00  $   16.00
Wet Stuff – 550g (pump or flip)  $   15.00  $       –  $   15.00
Wet Stuff – 270g (pump or flip)  $   11.00  $       –  $   11.00
Wet Stuff – 100g tube  $     5.00  $       –  $     5.00
Wet Stuff Sachets (packs of 10)  $     2.00  $       –  $     2.00
Wet Stuff Secrets Lube -250g  $     8.50  $   0.85  $     9.35
Wet Stuff Secrets Lube – 100g  $     5.50  $   0.55  $     6.05
Glyde 100ml Lube  $     4.00  –  $     4.00
Glyde 500ml Lube  $     8.00  –  $     8.00
Glyde 1ltr Lube  $   12.00  –  $   12.00

SPONGES

Beppy Sponge – Bag of 8  $   24.00  $   2.40  $   26.40
Beppy Sponge – Each  $     3.00  $   0.30  $     3.30
Beppy Wet Bag – Bag of 8  $   28.00  $   2.80  $   30.80
Beppy Wet Sponge – Each  $     3.50  $   0.35  $     3.85

Toys (each)

Hollow Strap on  $   29.00  $   2.90  $   31.90
We-Vibe $68.00  $   6.80  $   74.80
Intensity Rings  $     4.00  $   0.40  $     4.40
Shane World Sorority Screw  $   16.00  $   1.60  $   17.60
Vibrating Prostate stimulator  $   21.00  $   2.10  $   23.10
6.5 Dong  $   13.00  $   1.30  $   14.30
Love Beads  $     8.00  $   0.80  $     8.80
Butt Plug  $     8.00  $   0.80  $     8.80
Neon Luv Touch Bullet  $   12.00  $   1.20  $   13.20
Lamour Premium Vibe  $   20.00  $   2.00  $   22.00
Lamour Silicon Vibe  $   26.00  $   2.60  $   28.60
Mini Mini Mini Wanachi  $   11.00  $   1.10  $   12.10
Wonder Vibe  $   14.00  $   1.40  $   15.40
Body and Soul Embrace Vibrator  $   20.00  $   2.00  $   22.00
S-Line Cock ring  $   10.00  $   1.00  $   11.00
Power Ring  $   16.00  $   1.60  $   17.60
Bombshell Balm Gift Set  $   26.00  $   2.60  $   28.60
Multi Wanachi Vibe  $   40.00  $   4.00  $   44.00
Royal Rabbit Kit  $   34.00  $   3.40  $   37.40
Fetish Fantasy strap on  $   24.00  $   2.40  $   26.40
Realistic Cock  $   40.00  $   4.00  $   44.00

One sex workers open letter to her future mental health professional

A letter to the professional I am about to see for my mental health.

You may be a doctor, a counsellor, a social worker, a support worker, a psychologist or a psychiatrist. I am coming to an appointment and I am very nervous. You see, I am a sex worker. In the past I have seen professionals for my mental health in emergency rooms, therapist offices and doctor offices only to be leave feeling less than. I am writing you this letter as a sex worker, to discuss some of the things you should know.

  1. I have internalised stigma. This means that when you make certain comments, use problematic language, reinforce untrue stereotypes or pass judgement through body language you can reinforce this internal struggle. I know sex work is real work, I know I enjoy it. However, I face the struggle of societies whorephobia and when I am vulnerable someone I am trusting with my mental health can confirm these. I will walk away feeling like my choice of occupation, my life, myself is not worthy of help, is not allowed to be helped. Alternatively, I may walk away assuming you are part of the problem, angry and defiant. This will guarantee that anything helpful I could have taken from this appointment will be disregarded.
  2. Do not make assumptions on my past, present or future. Do not assume that story follows that of stereotypes, pop culture or the other sex worker you met. Let me tell you my story and listen. Do not ask me, in thirty different ways, about the trauma, pressure or drug use that ‘pushed’ me into ‘that line of work’. Trust my answers to your questions the first time.
  3. Try to avoid looking me up and down. It shows you are judging me. This action causes me to assume you are thinking things like ‘people actually pay to touch that thing in front of me’ or I assume you are being incredibly leery and inappropriate. Neither of which make me feel safe with you.
  4. Leaving the sex industry will not magically cure me. I like my job, it allows me to pay to see you and provides me with freedom. Even if I didn’t like my job, pressure to leave can be insurmountable with financial pressures, gaps in my resume and self-doubt. If I want to discuss leaving the industry I will bring it up. I will ask for advice on certain things. Do not be the professional who bases my mental health around my leaving my job.
  5. Your language matters. I may call myself a lot of things. I have been told off by countless professionals for calling myself crazy in your offices. This shows you understand the power of problematic language. Do not use stigmatising language. The accepted term is sex worker. However, if you not sure ask how I would like you to refer to my job.
  6. I have a life, relationships, friendships and commitments outside sex work. If I do not want to discuss sex work in every appointment that is okay. Sex work is not the cause of my mental illness and ignoring the large portion of my life that occurs outside of my work is not going help.
  7. Do not make stigmatising comments or jokes in our sessions. This includes problematic language, pop culture references and anything that reinforces the stigma. This will break my trust and likely result in me leaving your service.

These are seven things I wanted you to know. The final, and to me most important, thing is this; I do not trust you. I am in a position of requiring help with my mental health. I want to get well and understand that honesty will assist this, so I am telling you about sex work. But you need to understand that I don’t trust you. I am going to be difficult, I am going to judge your reactions and comments harshly. Please don’t isolate me by putting any of your moral objections to my occupation onto me.

Understand I will be difficult. I may ask to see your note. I may tell you to not write my occupation down. I might be stubborn. I may cry. If you can’t do these things, if your personal ethics do not allow you to see me as equal then please tell me straight up. I want someone willing to work with me. I want a professional who is willing to listen. I don’t trust you, but I want to.

Sincerely,

The nervous sex worker who is scared you are another professional that is going to betray my trust.

Mental Health and Sex Work; A Magenta staff members personal journey

Anxiety has impacted my life for as long as I can remember. At 18 I left university because of it. With my rent past due, no food in the fridge and a crippling fear of failing at living out of home I borrowed a phone book from the next door neighbour and searched for a brothel. I figured one weekend would cover my expenses while I figured out what I was going to do with my life.

My first shift as a naïve plus size sex worker was terrifying. I had barely any sexual experiences, no confidence and was shaking like a leaf. I was expecting the worst. I found the work easy. Don’t get me wrong, I threw up before my first booking, a horrible physical symptom of my anxiety. But he was lovely, it was a lot of fun and my rent was covered!

Parlours became a refuge from my anxiety. A place where I was normal, where my nervous giggle was appreciated, my anxiety read as adorable. But I faced new triggers, like the question ‘What do you do?’ and ‘how’s work?’. Interacting with friends, family and dating became foreign, scary and I became isolated. Stuck in the fear that people would find out I was a sex worker.

At 20 I had built friendships with other workers and told a few friends. I had a supportive partner. I had become less isolated. I was still an anxious person, however routine, structure and a sense of belonging had made me complacent. I was no longer continuously self-checking my anxiety, or working with it. I was functioning and wholeheartedly believed I was cured.

However, I had put on more weight and what little confidence I had dissipated. Parlours, that once were my safe place, became a place of anxiety. Unstable income, comparing my squishy self to the perfection of my co-workers, fear of losing my regular client and my bosses well intentioned comments on my physical appearance meant my anxiety was back. I retreated into anxiety. I stopped going to work, I spent my savings.

At 21 my supportive and loving partner dragged me kicking and screaming to the emergency department. They knew I was a sex worker. I was admitted to hospital and given referrals to mental health professionals. The next 3 years were me finding mental health professionals who would help me without blaming sex work. Most refused to believe that my anxiety and at the time undiagnosed bipolar could have existed prior to me becoming a sex worker.

Over this period, I transitioned into private work. Which gave me more control and less structure. I used the sex worker community as a place of non-judgemental support. I listened to real advice and took referrals. I also kept working. If I had not of worked I would not of survived. Medications, psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, counsellors, GP’s, gym memberships, good food, a stable place to live all cost money.

Each time a mental health professional blamed my work I would not return and I moved onto the next. Finally, I found people willing to understand that sex work, may be a cause of stress, but so is employment or managing any small business. It was then I was diagnosed with Bipolar, OCD, social anxiety and general anxiety disorder. I had medication, I workshopped coping techniques. I set rules. I found routine.

It took me treating my mental health as my full time job for three years to get to where I am now. It took me fighting to find mental health professionals who would listen and provide non-discriminatory care and building a strong support network to get me to a good place. It took me accepting myself, my sex work, my sexuality, my mental health diagnoses, asserting my boundaries and putting the care of myself as a priority to get well.

Today I consider myself well. I work within my limits, I am aware of my triggers and yes I still get it wrong. Recently I entertained the office with a mismanaged manic episode, but our resources have never been so organised! I check in with myself frequently. I have both firm and flexible boundaries I use to ensure I look after myself. My partner, my GP, my colleagues and my close friends all know that I am a bundle of emotions and support me in looking after myself. Mostly I value my happiness, safety and existence. By placing value on these things I have found a way to work with the slightly atypical nature of my brain.

If you want to chat mental health and sex work, advocating for yourself with mental health professionals or silly self-care techniques (lists FTW!) please pop into Magenta, email me or give me a call.

Self-Care for Sex Workers

Sometimes ‘self-care’ advice can be completely impractical to follow. How can I eat organically and do yoga when my chocolate stained doona cover has claimed me as its own? Do not get us wrong, self-care tips are well meaning and can offer great advice, but when your stressed, anxious or having a horrid time with mental health it is not always practical to expect yourself to meditate, eat kale, shower, get your nails done and see friends.

That said self-care is an ongoing process, not just something we should do in crisis. Magenta has popped together some real self-care tips from sex workers.

  • I get my nails done/hair done and tell myself it’s a justifiable expense because it’s ‘for work’
  • I send a blunt response to one of those really irritating timewasting pricks who keep texting me shit and then quickly block them before they have a chance to respond
  • I mentally compare what I just earnt in an hour to the income of whoever just made an asshole comment about sex work
  • Have a vicious gossip session with my other Whore friends – get it all out – then return to my kind self
  • I enjoy a Netflix binge complete with blankets, snuggles with my cat and chocolate. I validate that I need to be ‘unsexy’ for a while
  • I refuse to read or watch news reports on mainstream media – I will get the highlights from twitter, which keeps me updated and stronger sex worker activists have already called out the publisher on their stigmatising content.
  • I turn off social media and read. It may not be realistic for long periods of time, but my work phone doesn’t have social media installed. This allows me to consider my work hours as ‘low tech’ and allows me to disconnect.
  • I refuse to take part in any review/client forums, I find these spaces to be unhelpful and often quite rude. Kudo’s to anyone who doesn’t get angry reading them
  • If I am having a bad mental health day I let myself have it. I allow myself to do nothing, or do completely non-productive things like online shopping, eating chocolate and ignoring the work phone. Then the next day I try again.
  • Three things I do, bath, wine and a good book. This is my time; no one can interrupt this.
  • I box and play footy. Any way I can violently take out my anxiety calms me, and leaves me tired so I get a good night sleep.
  • Vent in my sex worker only groups. The people understand, can usually offer a giggle or a shoulder and a lot of support.

The above are some techniques used by a few sex workers to care for their mental health, prevent burnout and look after themselves. However, as a sex worker with mental illnesses I know that caring for yourself in crisis is not always easy or a priority. So, if you find yourself lacking in self-care, stuck in burn-out or in crisis here are my personal tips.

  • Eat something, anything. Ignore the balanced meal and eat what makes your soul happy, I suggest using ubereats. Finding it hard to face food? Try something easy like yogurt or a banana, or drink something with calories.
  • Call a friend who ‘gets it’. Other options include venting online, especially in sex worker only spaces. If phones make you anxious email/text/social media are all perfectly acceptable replacements. As is contacting Magenta for a peer educator to head over and provide peer support.
  • Don’t be afraid to seek help. A mental health plan from you GP, a sex worker friendly psych or an anonymous helpline.
  • If you have prescribed medications, ensure you take them as directed!
  • Sometimes you might feel like you are backsliding, but if you are trying to fix all your unhelpful habits at once it can be very hard to stay grounded. Its ok to not be perfect, especially if that’s the best way to get through a hard day. You don’t need to try to fix everything at once!
  • I also do something to tune out of the world. For me, I reread a favourite book (Harry Potter, if you are curious) or I journal.
  • Changing the format I work in often helps me. If I need routine and structure I head to a parlour. If I need to be at home as much as possible I offer shorter services to reduce the number of hours spent with clients.

If my crisis hits critical/dangerous levels, I try to be assessed by someone outside me such as my bestie, partner or a helpline. I take myself to my psych for an emergency appointment (if my budget allows) or present at the emergency department for an assessment. When presenting in ED it helps me to have a support person, whose job it is to help me stand up for myself against stigmatising language and treatment. I have found this support invaluable at each of my emergency room visits.

Self-care is personal. So while manicures, long baths and lit candles may work for one person; another may find that a horror film, being alone and pizza is what works for them. So we encourage you to comment below, or send us your best self-care tips.

Sexual Assault

Sexual Assault

Stealthing

So what is consent?

Consent is when we agree to something. We can only consent when we understand clearly what is being agreed to. We give consent without pressure, intimidation or force. Consent must be willing. We give consent in most things we do, from agreeing to do the dishes to having sex.

Consent is ongoing. Consent comes from all people involved having the freedom to say yes or no. Consent can be changed or taken back at any time. It is important that we check in with our partners boundaries. Our partners must also respect our boundaries

Sex work and consent

Sex work is consensual. Sex workers discuss services and cost with clients. When the client agrees to the booking consent has been negotiated.

When a client does something that wasn’t agreed to, boundaries are broken and consent no longer exists.  If a client changes the terms of the booking without talking to the sex worker consent is broken. It doesn’t matter whether this is done by deceit, fraud, force, threat or intimidation.

Being a sex worker still means you get a say in what happens to you. Sex workers are in control of their body and choices. Occupation does not take away anyone’s right to say no.

So what about when someone takes the condom off?

If a sexual partner (paid or unpaid) purposefully removes or breaks the condom without your permission – this is sexual assault. Popular media has been filled with articles about this. These articles have been calling this form of sexual assault ‘stealthing’.

The term ‘stealthing’ first made it onto the website Urban Dictionary in August 2016[1]. Using that word makes it sound like some kind of top secret James Bond type mission. By using this word, the media makes it sound normal, and the serious nature of the act is lessened. Don’t let this fool you though. It is Sexual Assault.

This is dangerous for the sexual health of all people involved. It puts people at risk of sexually transmissible infections (STIs), blood borne viruses (BBVs) and unwanted pregnancies.

Tips for working

The following might help you develop more confidence when providing sexual services. These are not defensive strategies against assault.

The only person responsible for sexual assault is the person who CHOOSES TO COMMIT assault.

  • Communicate the boundaries of your services clearly. You might choose to;
    • Have a clearly advertised ‘Do and Don’ts’ list
    • Discuss the service clearly with the client and confirm the agreed upon services and charges before starting the booking
    • Ask your client if they are aware of your boundaries
  • Be confident when reminding the client of your boundaries during the service
  • If a client has removed the condom, take action!
    • You can end the booking and tell the client to leave if you feel safe to do this.
    • Remind the client of the agreed terms of the service (the consensual agreement you came to). Clearly explain your boundaries again.

Magenta have many more tips – please visit us for more information.

So, what can I do about it?

If you experience sexual assault at work, or in your personal life, no one can tell you the ‘correct’ steps to take. It is important that you do what you feel is best for you. Your self-care, safety and wellbeing are the most important thing. If you choose to seek help, Magenta Educators can support you in;

  • Getting PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis)
  • Getting Emergency Contraception
  • Arranging for forensic evidence collection
  • Getting a complete sexual health screening (STI and BBV check)
  • Making a report (anonymously if you wish)
  • Accessing legal support
  • Providing referrals to private psychologists, councillors and medical professionals
  • Peer support

For More Information


Sexual Assault Resource Centre

24 Hour Emergency Line: 08 6458 1828 OR 1800 199 888
http://www.kemh.health.wa.gov.au/services/sarc/index.htm

WA Police

https://www.police.wa.gov.au/
Emergency: 000
Police Assistance (non-emergency): 131 444

Magenta

Phone 9328 1382
0403 188 540
www.magenta.org.au

 Pep Helpline

1300 767 161
http://www.waaids.com/other-items/pep-campaign.html

SHQ (Sexual Health Quarters)

Phone: 9227 6177
www.shq.org.au

 STC Clinic (South Terrace clinic)

Phone 9431 2149

RPH (Royal Perth Hospital)

Phone 9224 2178

 

 

[1] http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Stealthing